(We took it for granted that in Saint Kilda we did not have to even check for rainbow stickers on doors..we were wrong! I advise against the 'Falafel Kitchen' in Saint Kilda, the falafel isn't that good and the man who works there appears to have a distaste for lesbians and pigeons-the pigeon was not with us)
I also encouraged many heterosexuals to use the day as an excuse to experiment. Out of ten, three did! :) One of the wom*n who experimented latter reported to me "OMG! I'm never going back! [to men]" Now I don't believe that you can "convert" or "recruit" someone to a sexuality. Her mates have accused me of "turning" her. It's simply not possible.
She herself reflects that she had "...always sorta been interested" and had at various stages in her life "questioned" She says she now has a lot more questioning to do!
Some people claim to "just know" and maybe that's true, but I think part of being queer means questioning. Maybe not for everyone, but for many of us I believe there is a period of confusion as we struggle to come to terms with our identity, and our sexuality and gender identity, and what impact that has on our identity.
Generally (well as far as I know) Heterosexuals do not have to question, their heterosexuality, It's just taken for granted. A friend of mine once said "well if you have to even think about it, you must be [queer] because people like 'us' (referring to himself and his gf) don't even have to think about it!" This may not be true, I know people who identify as heterosexuals who at some stage in their life had questioned their sexuality. This may have more to do with the fact the Both sexuality and gender identity are fluid-changeable!
Jess was recently berated by a teacher for using the phrase "transcending society's norms" The teacher argued that Queers "differ" , they don't transcend. Between us we thought of a number of reasons why the term "transcend" is used within the political-queer community. On reflection of the process of questioning that many queers have to go through, I feel that transcend is defiantly the correct term. While sexuality and gender identity are not necessarily choices queers do have to contemplate and consider their sexuality and hopefully come to terms with it and embrace it.
The need for reflection comes as a result of the fact that we are a minority and everywhere we look there are messages telling us that it's wrong, that relationships are between a man and a woman, conforming to the assigned-at-birth-sex gender roles. On embracing this identity after a process of deep reflection, queers have indeed TRANSCENDED societies norm. They did not choose to be queer but the actively worked to understand and better accept who they are in a way that most heterosexuals do not. That said heterosexuals may have their own identity crisis, but these are of a different nature.
so TRANSCEND away my pretties.....